In memoriam- boy, do we remember you!

And now it is two years ago. He is still in my thoughts every day.

A year ago today, my best friend died. Suddenly, but not unexpectedly, from myeloma  . I have known him for 51 years-unfortunately he only knew me for 50 years- because I continue to know him, even though he is gone.

It has been a hard year for everyone who knew Stephen as anniversaries and memories continue to resurface every day.

As we holiday in France, just me and H, memories inevitably go back to the countless family holidays we had together, especially in Wales. Stephen was the bbq king, the entertainer… and much more….

I’d love to be able to say RIP but I can’t. Stephen didn’t believe in an after- life and nor do I.  If perchance he was up there in heaven- or hell- he’d be entertaining everyone with his blues playing, his outrageous comments (with a mischievous smile on his face), his farting, his generosity of spirit….

No; the after life is that Stephen lives on in the memories of all those who knew him or even just came across him.

He wasn’t a brilliant musician but he had great enthusiasm and was a great showman- here he is at his 50th birthday party. playing Mustang Sally.

Stephen was also generous with what skills he had and encouraged our son to learn to finger pick and also the joys of performing live as he demonstrated above!

We carried his coffin into Tunbridge Wells crematorium to the tune of Peaches en Regalia by Frank Zappa, probably a first for them but he’d have loved it. By day a quiet, dedicated accountant- good at his job- but in his leisure time a fan of the absurd, artist, musician, noodler and dedicated family man and loyal friend to all those who took the time to know him.

Stephen Mason: September 1956-August 2013

Thank you Stephen for sharing your life with me and so many others.

PS. If you know of any children, struggling with bereavement, I can recommend Badger’s Parting Gifts, by Sue Varley. Good reminder that it is the memories that live on…


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One response to “In memoriam- boy, do we remember you!”

  1. Mari Mason says :

    Beautiful sentiments, painting a vivid picture, thank you. If you listened to Peaches en Regalia you are a braver man than I, although it’s perfection a year ago made me smile.

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